We can look into our thinking patterns to figure out what we can change to have a better experience. (also called as Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT))

It starts with the self-talk that we do.

e.g. if we are too harsh and critical with ourselves, we can often find that we are not confident with ourselves and it could deter us from taking any decision.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or

References: How to manage social power